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Van afhaalmaaltijden tot tijd voor jezelf: 13 geruststellend eerlijke illustraties voor mama’s

Het is volkomen normaal dat die (b)engeltjes, ook al zie je ze zo zo zo ontzettend graag, soms enorm op je zenuwen kunnen werken.

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We zien onze kinderen zielsgraag, maar af en toe kunnen ze het bloed onder onze nagels vandaan halen. Het zou geen taboe mogen zijn om dit toe te geven en daarom maakt illustratrice Jamina Bone er eerlijke tekeningen over.

Moedig imperfecte mama’s aan om de sociale normen te laten vallen en hun echte badass zelf te zijn‘, schrijft Jamina Bone in haar biografie op Instagram en op haar website Momming With Truth. Zelf kreeg ze te maken met een postnatale depressie na de bevalling van haar tweede kindje. Heel wat mama’s durven nu nog steeds niet toe te geven of zijn beschaamd om te zeggen dat ze soms hun kinderen eens naar de maan wensen als ze weer eens niet willen luisteren, hun speelgoed niet opruimen of de net opgeruimde woonkamer opnieuw in een vuilnisbelt omtoverden. Het is nochtans volkomen normaal dat die (b)engeltjes, ook al zie je ze zo zo zo ontzettend graag, soms enorm op je zenuwen kunnen werken. En daardoor ben je zéker geen minder goede mama. Ze giet dagelijkse situaties voor moeders neer in heel herkenbare illustraties, en steekt zo alle mama’s een hart onder riem. Jullie zijn allemaal keigoed bezig!

Het is oké om iemand anders, zoals je partner of ouders, ook even voor je kind te laten zorgen.

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👩‍🎨: @mommingwithtruth 👉What is it about stepping away from our babies that leave us feeling like we’ve abandoned them? – – Were talking about setting standards that fit your family this week in the community. What does this mean? Do you have your own standards or do you take on what society deems being a good mother is? Based on resent studies, time-intensive parenting is seen across the board by parents as being “good parenting”. This means we perceive a good mom to be sitting with their kids daily for a lengthy amount of time on learning or nurturing. Did you know that by the time your child is in elementary school the difference between spending 15 min and over is insignificant!? Did you also know we are spending more time with our kids now than ever before?! – – Take some time this week to define what you and your partner believe being a good mother/parent is. Being consistent in some areas is better than being inconsistent in all areas. Let’s stop comparing our journey with everyone else’s. Lest accept that we are all in different places. 🤝🙋‍♀️🤜🤛 – – If you want to link the the article about this topic, DM me. 😉🖤 If you want to work on overcoming your obstacles to move forward in your journey, join the community. Link in bio. 💕🤟 – – (Follow @mommingwithtruth for more ways to move forward in your journey through motherhood. ) – – – #mommingwithtruth #stillagoodmom #maternalmentalhealth #doingwhatittakes #settingstandards #boundariesbeginwithyou #depressionhelp #momcommunity #momshelpingmoms #momshelpingmomssucceed #icanhelp #helpthroughdepression #depressedmom #sadmom #sadmoms #thereishope #findinghope #postpartumdepression #ppd #ppdppa #ppa #postnatalmentalhealth #mentalhealth #postpartumdepressionsurvivor

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Het is oké om even tijd voor jezelf te nemen.

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👩‍🎨: @mommingwithtruth 👉Oh Mama… Those thoughts you have don't define your love for your baby or your family. You are still a good mom. – "Sleep when the baby sleeps" they say, but when have you showered? When have you felt peace? The constant needs of everyone else don't need to rule your existence. – – I'm telling you this as I'm sitting here realizing how badly I crave silence. A peaceful shower, a closed door crap when nobody is expecting me to be anywhere or do anything, and undisturbed moments at my computer working for something other than my kids and this house. My hair is in need of a haircut, but I don't take the time to work it out and make it happen. My color in my hair is fading… much like how I’m feeling. (This is an exaggeration, but you get the point) Don't let yourself fade, Mama. Ask me if I got that Mani/Pedi I needed after moving (I have skin picking issues)… nope. Ask me if I've seen a Doctor or Dentist in the last 3 years… nope. Why do we let ourself fade? Why do we elevate everyone else's existence in SPITE of our own? Let's go now… – – Make an appointment for you. Go see that therapist you've been wanting to see, or that much needed mammogram you've been putting off, get your nails done, have coffee with a friend, color your hair, take a long (locked door) shower when your mom/friend/sister comes to visit. Go take that shit in silence. Don't feel guilty for making time for you. – – – – #mommingwithtruth #stillagoodmom #findpeace #babiesaretheworst #kidsaretheworst #showerinpeace #peaceformom #selfcare #howtoloveyourself #lovethecreation #findtimeforyourself #selfcareisnotselfish #momcare ##mombod #maternalmentalhealth #maternalmentalhealthmatters #maternalmentalhealthadvocate #postpartumdepressionsurvivor #postpartummooddisorder #postpartumdepression

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Het is oké om soms ‘nee’ te zeggen.

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👩‍🎨 @mommingwithtruth 👉It’s ok to say no… so why do we feel guilt for it? Is it because we spend most of our day in our heads wondering why things are so tough? Is it that we have no help and we are exhausted? Is it because we’ve been in survival mode and have been saying no to everything? No to the zoo or pool, no to having friends over or going to friends, no to the puppy and new toys we can’t afford and don’t want to clean or manage, and even no to the time they want from us to play one on one. – – 1. Self care is not selfish. It is ok to be something beyond motherhood. Find your calling. TAKE moments for yourself. – 2. Invest in yourself. Executives invest in their business and even their workers. Invest in yourself and your dreams. -Maybe think about some trades— give up smoking to pay for a sitter. Give up the dinner once per month to pay for coffee shop dates with yourself or a friend. – – 3. Listen to uplifting information. Our minds are filled with enough lies, fill it with truths. #oprahssupersoulconversations is one of my favorites alone with #craiggroeschelleadershippodcast – – This way, one of those no’s can be a yes. I’m definitely saying no to a puppy, but going to say yes to some one on one play time. I’m also going to say yes to some hot tub time 😜where I can think through the #Patreon launch and updating my website. – – Start a conversation about why it’s ok to say no. – – #stillagoodmom #mommingwithtruth #kidsaretheworst #itsoktosayno #selfcareisnotselfish #findyourpurpose #purposebeyondparenting #purposebeyondmotherhood #momconversations #momguilt #postpartumdepressionsurvivor #postpartumdepreasion

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Het is oké om soms kant-en-klaarmaaltijden op tafel te zetten.

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I got the answer wrong. I am now keeping my word and posting this picture selected by my brother in law, artist @chancebone . I’m challenging my friends who are logical and smart thinkers, to have a crack at guessing the answer to the riddle below. When you think you know, Private message me the answer. If you are not going to follow the instructions after you lose, don't bother playing. Your turn! Read the riddle. If your answer is incorrect, I can choose any of your photo and you have to post it along with the riddle: It's 7:00 AM. You are asleep and there is a sudden knock on the door. Behind the door are your parents who came to have breakfast. In your fridge are bread, milk (pasteurized), juice, and a jar of jam. To answer, what will you open first? * Answer directly through Private message only please. Answers in the comment section will be deleted. ** Note: It’s not what you think.

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Het is oké om je kinderen naar de opvang of crèche te sturen zodat je wat meer tijd hebt voor jezelf.

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👩‍🎨: @mommingwithtruth 👉 5 years ago I dreamt of homeschooling my children. With a degree in education, I thought it would be easy. I thought I would enjoy being home with my kids every day. I thought I would enjoy being responsible for creating moments of inspiration, creativity, and learning. I didn’t know how intensive and isolating it would turn out to be. It is not for everyone, and that is ok. Do I believe it would be best for my kids to be with and learn from their parents who love them unconditionally. Sure… but not from parents who are depleted and parenting from a place of exhaustion. – – 1 year ago, Adeline was accepted into a early Headstart program #projecteagle leaving me time to build this business. Moving out of state means losing this program. I don’t know where God is taking us and have no idea what tomorrow will bring, but I do feel my mental health is at a place where we can figure it out. – – 👉Having childcare, I believe made me a better mother. I was able to figure myself out and work on something I’m passionate about without feeling guilty for ignoring my kids. Knowing my kids were safe and had activities gave me confidence that I was going the right thing for our family. If you have childcare, you shouldn’t feel less than as a mom. It makes you capable. 💪💪💪 – – #mommingwithtruth #stillagoodmom #childcare #childcarecanbethedeepestselfcare #yougotthismama

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Het is oké dat je niet elke minuut van de dag met je kinderen wil doorbrengen.

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For more drawings, follow @mommingwithtruth 👉 Why do we feel so much guilt for not wanting to spend every second of the day consuming the chaos and constant chatter of our children?! My mother (being raised on a farm with 16 brothers and sisters.. yes, 16) was told as a child to play outside until dark. I was told as a child to play outside until the street lights turn on. We may not be able to do that in our current situation, but you can look at how involved you have been and remind yourself that you don’t have to be present in all the moments. – IT’S OK – Just because Susan seems to have fun with her kids taking a bath doesn’t mean you have to like it. This doesn’t make you a bad mother, it makes you human. Listen to the inner voice that’s telling you to take a break. – – If you are feeling isolated, alone, and feel like nobody understands the pain you are feeling through motherhood, reach out. We are a community of imPERFECT moms willing to support one another. Comment, respond to other comments, and express a time when you felt guilty for not wanting to be with your sweet kiddos. – – – #mommingwithtruth #stillagoodmom #motherhoodunderstood #bekindtoyourself #bathtime #kidsaretheworst #postpartumdepressionsurvivor #postpartumdepression #postpartumanxiety #depressedmom #mommingsohard #momminghard #momstruggles #momcommunity #imperfectmomsquad #imperfectmom #imperfectlyperfect #strongertogether

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Het is oké als je er niet in slaagt om alle huishoudelijke karweitjes bol te werken.

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👩‍🎨: @mommingwithtruth 👉 You, Mama are not the chores you left unfinished. I had a conversation with the inspiring @goodjujucami about the stories we allow our brain to replay over and over. This story becomes our “truth”. What is your story? Is it that you never finish housework? Is it that you aren’t a good enough mother for your kids? OR is it that you are doing what you can and giving what you have to be just the parent that you can be right now? 💪💪💪 Take a piece of paper, write what you believe of yourself… then re-write it into truth. Now replay the true story. 💕💕 Take care of yourself. – – – – #mommingsohard #hardknocklife #mommingwithtruth #motherhoodissues #motherhood #mommingishard #mommingainteasy #motherhoodunplugged #momtruths #stillagoodmom

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Het is oké om je kind even te laten uithuilen.

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👩‍🎨@mommingwithtruth – These moments of frustrations do NOT define you as a parent. Why do we put so much stock in these areas of weakness? – – Ask my hubs, @soundandpatterns about my impatience during bedtime. There was a time I dreaded bedtime. The need for my oldest to latch onto me like a leech, my youngest waking up every 30 min crying, and the yearning for silence and freedom was overwhelming by 8pm. I communicated my need for help and he stepped up. I am no longer alone in this pursuit of a kid free night. Our kids get cuddles, sometimes a book, and a somewhat patient mother all because I asked for help. – – Some of you feel like you are supposed to do all of this alone when you have a partner sitting on the sidelines not knowing how to step in. Asking for help doesn’t make you a bad mother. Feeling frustrated doesn’t either. Take it moment by moment. You are a warrior!! 💪💪💪 – – – – #warriormom #momwarrior #stillagoodkid #stillagoodmom #momsarewarriors #youarenotyourfailures #askforhelpwhenyouneedit #askforhelp #teamnosleep #teamnosleep🚫 #gotheefftosleep #gotheftosleep #toddlermom #toddlermomlife #toddlerlifestyle #toddlerlife #cryingkids #bedtimeroutine #mommingishard #mommingwithtruth #honestmotherhood #postpartumdepressionsurvivor #postpartumdepression #postpartumdepressionsupport #postpartumanxiety #postnataldepression #postpartumjourney

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Het is oké om als mama nog eens een stapje in de wereld te zetten en je te amuseren.

Het is oké om ook geld aan jezelf uit te geven in plaats van aan je kindjes.

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How many of us feel guilt for spending money on ourselves? 🙋‍♀️🙋‍♀️🙋‍♀️ – – Let me be clear; what I am NOT saying is to go spend money on things that will never fill the void you are feeling. That void is from believing your worth is dependent on what you do, say, what you look like, how you parent, who you are or are not married to, how your kids behave, how much money you make or don’t make, etc. YOU ARE NOT ANY OF THESE. You are a masterpiece, created to do good works. Can you believe that? Can you believe you were crafted by a creator so perfectly that your quirks are really perfect embellishments? – – Before my 2 years of depression, my worth was dependent on everything outside of me. I worked to be what I though everyone wanted and needed me to be. I believe now that depression was my gift from God to stop and realize that I am worthy because I exist. That’s it. – – You, Mama are worthy because you exist, your existence has purpose and, your purpose will bring you joy. – – What have you been wanting to invest in yourself ? Can you afford it? Can you save for it? Will it bring or make an impact? Will it build your confidence? Will it empower you? – You are still a good mom by investing in yourself. You are worthy of an investment. 💪🙌😘 – – – #momshelpingmoms #investinginmoms #mominvestment #investinginyourself #mommingwithtruth #stillagoodmom #motherhoodunplugged #momtruths #goodmom #goodmomshavescarythoughts #mommoment #momthoughts #youareworthy #tattoomom #momtattoo #amybugtattoo

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Het is oké als die to-dolijst maar niet afgeraakt.

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Screw that looming to-do list. It doesn’t make you less of a mother. Instead of letting your unfinished tasks bully you into submission. When we hide behind the lies that we aren’t enough, we actually behave like we are not enough. Let’s rise above. Let’s hold hold onto the fact that we are exactly what our kids need. There will be a day when you will be able to complete tasks. Hang in there. Someday soon you will look back and remember when tasks were hard. This time will pass. – – – – #youareagoodmom #momsareamaizing #mommingainteasy #momsurvivalmode #mommingishard #momtodolist #todolists #momstruggles #momsbelike #yougotthis #youareenough #stillagoodmom #mommingforreal #mommingwithtruth #mommingishard #momminghard #coolmom #illustrationsketch #momillustration #momdrawing #drawingmom #illustratormom

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Het is oké om af en toe te zwichten en dingen toe te laten die je kinderen eigenlijk niet mogen.

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What age is too old for our kids to stop sleeping in our beds? I honestly don’t know. I have known an 8 year old sleeping in her father’s bed after divorce. I’ve known a 10 year old sneaking into his parent’s bed at night. So what age is too old and does it matter? – – On the other hand… since I was a child of sexual abuse, I am very aware of my children’s bodies and what they need to know to keep them safe. So… is there an age where she should stop coming into our bed? 🤷‍♀️ – – For now, I am going to enjoy how loving my kids are and appreciate that their father doesn’t hesitate to share his space with them if it brings them comfort. #dontforgetdads @soundandpatterns 💪💪🙌 – – – – #mommingwithtruth #thebiggerpicture #momanddadtime #stillagoodmom #stillagooddad #loveyourkids #kidsneeddads #kidsneedmoms #kidsneedlove #familyillustration #momanddadlove #parentingkids

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Het is oké om je partner in te schakelen om wat minder druk op je schouders te hebben.

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I am tired of feeling guilty for getting the rest I need. There was a time I was waking up 7-11 times every night for a year. To say I was exhausted was an understatement. I reached a breaking point and realized I was adding to my sickness. My depression built when I believed the lie that I had to do this on my own because “that’s what mamas do”. No. We were meant to live in community. Now, before you laugh because there isn’t anyone around you helping, remember, you need to ASK for help. Find a church home and ask. Find a mom group and ask. Sit down with your partner that may not understand the depth of your distress and ask. “I need you to take over the night feedings.” “I need you to take care of the dishes and trash.” “I need you to take the kids when you get home.” – – If your mother or MIL is helping, “I need you to take baby for 2 hrs every week with no judgment or questions.” If it’s a friend or someone from a mom group, “I need help. My mind is not in a good place and I need some time to work on it without baby. Can you come over during nap time once per week so I can figure things out?” – – How are you going to ask for help this week? – – – #mommingwithtruth #mommingainteasy #dontforgetdads #daddingit #askforhelp #colickybaby #colickybabysurvivor #shestilldoesntsleep #teamnosleep #howtoaskforhelp #momsneedhelp #gethelpgetbetter #shareresponsibilities #twoparents #depressionawareness #postpartumlife #postpartumjourney #postpartumsupport #postpartummentalhealth

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